As evidenced by the crowds at the gym, it’s New Years Resolution time. I have long since given up on traditional resolutions like lose weight, exercise more or stop making fun of the old guys at my local coffee shop who wear tight spandex bicycle apparel to ride their bikes four blocks and sit in the coffee shop all morning cackling like mama hens with a freshly laid egg, making it hard for me to concentrate.
Also? I hope I’m still riding a bike with a large group of friends well into my 70′s.
But this year Astroglide’s Sexual Wellness Ambassador Dr. Yvonne Fulbright is offering suggestions to help overcome sexual shyness in 2013 and they have asked me comment! Astroglide is giving away free samples to help facilitate that exploration. That is a resolution I can get behind (in front of, on top of and possibly, with proper negotiation, underneath.)
Dr. Yvonne Says: Analyze what’s holding you back so that you have a good sense – vs. a general sense – of the barriers you need to overcome in claiming your sexual self and sex life.
Co-sleeping is slowly suffocating my sex life. While I love waking up with Monkey and snuggling as we talk about what we are going to do that day, I miss snuggling the Mr and talking about what I want him to do to me. I can’t bare to think about kicking my warm, adorable bundle of Wolverine-esque toenails and sharp elbows out of our bed yet (a little known sexual side effect from struggling with infertility) so this year I resolve to have more sex in his room. He has an awesome car shaped bed! Think of the role play opportunities I’ve been missing out on!
What is holding you back from having an amazing sex life? Are you unable to find the time and energy? Or do you have something else, something deeper that needs to be addressed? Certified sex therapists and counselors can help you address those issues. Do you need more knowledge? There are tons of great sex ed books available! Sometimes, we just need a new toy to remind us how much fun we used to have together before infertility and/or parenting got in the way. I’m a huge proponent of the we-vibe couples vibrator. And of course, if the problem is no partner, there is always the there’s always the magic wand and an Internet connection. The world is, literally at your fingertips, from porno to one night stands.
What resolution can you make to improve your sex life in 2013?
If you have questions about sex or intimacy, feel free to ask me here, or of course, you can also head over to Astroglide’s site and Ask Yvonne.
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