Demystifying the Sex Worker Mommy
Name: Madison Young
Sexy Occupation: Feminist Porn Star & Director – Sex Educator
How long have you been a sex worker? 10 years
Children’s ages E.L.M. – 6 months
Madison Young, the woman:
Are you a feminist? Yes I identify as a sex positive feminist. I feel that feminism is about equality and the right to choose. And I choose pleasure. I’m in control of my body, my pleasure, my wants and desires and I know how to communicate those wants and desires to others both on and off camera.
What is your perfect day off on your own? A perfect day off on my own. Its hard to fathom being separated from my baby on a day off of work. But I think a day off would involve sleeping in late in a comfortable hotel room and breakfast in bed followed by reading a book on the beach. If I was feeling really decadent I might squeeze in a visit to the spa for a massage, mani/pedi, and some evening meditation.
Is your life where you thought it would be? Yes I’m so very fortunate. I always wanted to be an artist, community organizer, writer, and create space for artistic and creative expression. I’ve been able to do that through my work as a sex educator, director, and founder of Femina Potens Art Gallery. I really have the life that I’ve always wanted and I wouldn’t change a thing.
Favorite Writers:I love Bukowski, Keroauc, Laura Antoniou , Diane Diprima, Michelle Tea, I’ve been reading Ayelet Waldman(Bad Mother) and Susie Bright lately and love their work in relation to motherhood.
Favorite Movies: Flower and Snake, High Art, The Secretary, Beautiful Losers( a documentary on diy street artist movement), and Bed In (documentary on Yoko Ono and John Lennon’s famous performance piece).
Madison Young, the momma:
What is the best parenting advice anyone has given you? One mom told me that she would have a babysitter come by every night at dinner for an hour so that she could sit down and eat with her husband. This ended up being a great piece of advice for me that really helped my sanity, to just have a sitter come by for an hour while I worked out or cleaned the house or took a bath. It felt luxurious and allowed me to recharge on a daily basis and be a better less stressed out mom for my daughter.
What style of parent are you? Was it the style of parent you had thought you would be? I think my style of parenting is somewhat different than what I had imagined. I figured I would be traveling at this point with my daughter and jet setting around the world for work. But it feels like she really needs a strong foundation that is built on routine at this point in her life. And my absolute priority is my little girl, not my career. I love my career, but it is a secondary element of my life now. I think that was unexpected.
How has being a parent changed your relationship with your parents? My appreciation for my parents has sky rocketed. I keep thinking back to what things were like when I was growing up and how hard my mom worked to balance work and our home life. I really had no idea until my daughter entered my life. My relationship with my family is much stronger since the birth of my daughter. I think my parents and I now have a deeper connection and shared common life experience and that seems to have made a big difference in our dynamic.
Milk Makers and Money Shakers is an ongoing series of interviews of sex worker mothers. If you are a sex worker momma, please contact me to be interviewed. You can be anonymous as long as I verify who you are.