In my line of work, I deal with requests for humiliation all the time. Erotic, verbal, physical, or psychological, such as racial, religious and occasionally financial. But even the most hard core submissive has limits – as well as hot buttons. Before we play, these are discussed at length. After 15 years, I know what questions to ask when people say they are into humiliation. Do they want to be talked down to because they don’t deserve to be in the presence of such a beautiful women as myself ;-}~ . Or yelled at for an imagined faux pas. Maybe they need to hear me laugh at their small penis, or their desire to lick the bottom of my shoes.
And who am I as I enact this humiliation? Am I their boss who has found porn on their company computer or panties in their desk drawer. Or a female supremacist with a new, untrained slave? Their mother? Their wife? Their high school sweetheart? Teacher? Nun?
Humiliation runs the gamut from mild to wild. Some need only my knowing smile, others need the shocked look of strangers.
But each of these encounters are negotiated. And each has a safe word to slow or end the session. Truly, the sub is in control and I offer a safe place to act on these urges.
Humiliation with an eager, willing bottom and an educated insightful top can be a fun endeavor in creativity! Humiliation in a non consensual situation can be horrifying for all involved.
The in-laws are leaving tomorrow morning after what seems like an 8 day session with no negotiation and no safe words. Quite horrifying indeed.
Seriously. I would have called RED several times a day.
She yells at him constantly, loudly without warning, and often, there doesn’t seem to be a reason. He plays the passive aggressive, doing things to piss her off then walking away as she screams. Or occasionally he will just ignore her as she goes on. He never defends himself and in fact seems to be depressed about his situation. He is basically, an abused spouse.
I have to wonder if at some point, he liked her bossiness. Did he get a little thrill when she would correct him, or talk down to him in front of people? Or did she at some point respect him as a human being?
I’m disturbed to think of them in ANY way sexual, but I have to wonder, would BDSM actually help them? Would he be able to negotiate his thrill, or would just raising the question make her realize how horribly she treats him?