Wait. What is it you do for a living?
So I figured I would explain exactly what it is I do for a living. I know there are a ton of misconceptions about domination – and in the sex or adult industry, there are millions of shades of grey.
The short version is that I help men, and sometimes women or couples explore their fetishes and sexual fantasies.
- I share a space with a few other women, although we rarely run into each other.
- I have many friends across the country who are also in this industry.
- I do manage to make a fairly good living, and yes, I do pay taxes on it. I’m an entertainer.
- My clients are never allowed to have sex with me and rarely get to touch me at all aside from the occasional foot or leg worship.
- Yes, my mommy and my daddy know what I do.
I have experience with bondage and mummification, cross dressing and gender issues, electrical play, whipping, flogging and spanking and all manors of physiological humiliation and role-play. My clients tend to be well off and highly educated – but other then that, they are young and old, married and single, powerful and pawns. The main thing that then need is to explore a part of themselves that they can’t, or won’t with the partner in their life. This might because they are ashamed to admit to her that they are a cross dresser, or know that she can’t hit them as hard as they need to be hit. Occasionally she needs to explore bondage in a safe feminine environment safe from male ideals. Sometimes, they just want to explore their relationship in a kinky private way. And sometimes, like in the movies, they just need to escape real life for a while and have someone else make their decisions for them.
Prospective clients generally find my on the web, fill out an application and wait for me to contact them. Because I have a good loyal set of regular submissives, I only take clients I feel I share common interests with. When I was new to the industry, I couldn’t be that picky and pay my rent! It sometimes ended badly, but only because of bad chemistry, lack of common interests or bad manors. I’ve never been assaulted or hurt by my clients. I did once have a bit of a stalker, but thankfully he had an even shorter attention then I do!
Once I decide to see a client, I arrange for a phone consultation to confirm interests and get a feel for their personality. If all is a go, we set a time to meet at my dungeon. When the client arrives, we once again go over everything on the application, interests, health issues, concerns, before we start playing. All clients have a safe word so they can let me know if things get too intense.
My relationship with my clients tend to be slightly friendlier then your relationship with your Dr or Shrink. I know a bit about their home lives, work etc, but they know little about mine. They contact me when they are interested in setting up a new appointment, but other then that, understand that I lead a busy life and that they are not part of it aside from those couple hours we spend together. There is always the exception to the rule though – either the client I become friendly with, or the client who wishes to become friendlier then I wish, but those tend to be few and far between.
My husband has always known what I do. Our relationship was going to be a short lived one of excitement and daring, but somehow, accidently, obviously, it became much more then that. A few of those aforementioned clients whom I’m friendly with have met him. Occasionally, when I need a male voyeur, he joins me in session. I wish I had more of those kinds of sessions.
Will I continue seeing clients if this whole IVF thing pans out? I don’t know. Stay tuned to find out!
Holy shit. I gotta get my head around this.
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